Parenting is hard. It’s not just about bringing a child into this world. It’s not just about making sure they get a proper education or that they are given their needs and sometimes their wants.
Parenting is about making sure that our children grow up to be kind, respectful, loving and a lot of other things which are too many to even enumerate.
It’s been a while since I blogged about my children, initially this was just going to be a Facebook status, but it turned into a looong ass post cause I had a lot to say, so it’s time for a Mommy Story.😁
Lucas had a soccer game yesterday and informed us only on Thursday night that his shoes were destroyed. Like it’s unusable. No time to run to the mall and buy a new one so “O” said to use Chakai’s shoes, it’s black with pink laces. He didn’t mind as long as he could play and his feet are as big as Chakai’s anyway, so there’s no problem with the size.
He’s 9 and in 4th grade.
We didn’t think it was a big deal that he wore shoes with pink laces, apparently there was a kid who made fun of him because of his pink laces, but according to him, he just smiled and ignored the other kid’s comments.
The kid said to him, “Why do you have pink laces? Are you gay? So girly.”. – Read further down for my reaction to this comment.😁
Anyway, his team won the game, with him scoring 2 out of the 4 goals.😁
So we asked him how he won the 2 points. The first one was a free kick, the other one, was apparently too strong a kick that while the goalie did catch it, it was too much for him to hold on to and the ball made it to the goal. 🥅😁
He then proceeded to tell us how he said to the kid who insulted his shoes, who happened to be on the opposing team, after they’ve won, “That’s for insulting my shoes. These shoes are special”.😂 And everyone was like “Ooooohhhhhh”.😂 I’m so proud of my little man, there’s a little bit of “O” in him, how he just ignored the bad comments — sooo “O”, and a little bit of me in him, where he just had to shut down the hater by telling him off at the end — sooo Me.😂
My heart is flowing with pride I could just cry. All those lessons about how to stand up for yourself without being mean to people has paid off.😁 My Lucas is not a bully, but he isn’t a wimp either.😊
“Why do you have pink laces? Are you gay? So girly!”
Since when has the color pink been an exclusive color for girls?🤔
When Lucas told us about the kids’ comment, I was like, “You do know that pink isn’t just for girls right? Daddy wears pink. Even Tito Ken wears pink. You should’ve said to him that ‘Real Men wear Pink, BOY.😂’. I was kidding about that real men comment, but come on. This kid is ridiculous.🙄
And that “are you gay?” comment. So uncalled for.🙅♀️🙅♂️ What’s wrong with being gay? Seriously, this kid needs a good talking to.🙄
We’re not perfect parents and I’m sure we’re not even in the running to be the best of the best but we do try our very best to ensure that our children grow up to be decent and basically kind and respectful people; to be kind and accepting of everyone regardless of their gender preference. They are people and at the end of the day, they deserve our respect and kindness, just like everyone else.
Parenting is so very tricky.
We always remind our children of the golden rule, “Do unto others what you want others do unto you.”. People tend to over think it, when basically, it’s so simple. Be kind, but don’t be a pushover.😊
So when Lucas ignored the kid’s negative comments, that made me glow with pride, but when he put him in his place by saying “That’s for insulting my shoes.”, it made me prouder, because he owned that kid.😂
What a way to prove that just because he had pink laces on doesn’t mean he’s girly.😂
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